Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered what it would take to move forward when you realize you are stuck?
If you answer “Yes!” you know what it’s like to arrive at a defining moment. You have to choose whether to stay stuck or choose to grow and move forward.
That’s right. It’s a choice. It’s YOUR choice.
The key is now that you’ve acknowledged this frustrating feeling, what are we going to do about it? Fortunately, I’ve become really good at getting myself unstuck, and even better at helping others move forward!
Here are five steps to help get you moving forward when you realize you are stuck:
Step One: Choose Awareness
The moment you first become aware that you are stuck is critical. Once you can see it from the point of view of an observer, you create a space between you and your immovable state. Awareness is the first step of learning. If you can’t see it, you can’t change it.
Step Two: Stop and take inventory
It’s time to stop your mind from reeling out of control and take inventory of the facts. Why are you feeling the way you are feeling? Where are you out of alignment with your values or your dreams? It’s time to get real about your current results and own them. Your current results are an accumulation of how you’ve been thinking, feeling and acting. If you can accept that they are your creation, then you empower yourself to create different results. As soon as you begin to upgrade your thoughts, feelings and actions, you will start seeing different results.
Step Three: Review your ENVIRONMENTS
If you are going to get unstuck and become the Chief Happiness Officer of your life, you have be surrounded by winning environments.
- How is your body? You mind?
- How are your finances? Your relationships?
- When was the last time you did something purely creative?
- When was the last time you stepped out of your comfort zone?
- Are you truly focused and productive in your business, or are you mindlessly wandering from one distraction to the next?
- Life is an energy management game. Where are your energy leaks?
Step Four: Make the decision NOW to become unstuck and FEEL GOOD about it
Being stuck means it’s time for you to grow. The decision to become unstuck happens in a single defining moment. It’s a moment you will be able to look back on with gratitude, because it is when the shift happened. From there on, it’s your job to support your decision to grow.
The feeling is everything: if you don’t feel better for having made the decision, then you haven’t gone deep enough. If the energy of being stuck is still hanging around, then getting your new results is going to be more difficult than it needs to be. It’s worth it to take a step back and go deeper. Get help from a third party like a coach or a therapist if necessary! Feel better now. Do not wait to feel better until after the results have come in. It doesn’t work that way! All of your belief, effort and growth must happen before the result can come!
Step Five: Take ACTION
Do something to show yourself that you are committed to this new path of bigger, better results. I’m not talking about impulsive action. The action you take and the subsequent decisions you make need to be consistent with the decision you have made. If you need to upgrade your skills, read a book or take a course. If you plan to become physically fit, join a new fitness class or gym. If you need more time in your business, surf the internet less. If you want to accelerate the growth of your business without reinventing the wheel, hire a coach!
The best way for you to move forward when you realize you’ve been stuck is to make the decision to change, feel good about it and follow through with action. The road ahead may be uncertain, but your destination will be worth the effort!